10 Things That I Think Are Sexy

So, a few things prompted this post.

A. We went to an EPIC concert this weekend. I will let Thing 1 tell you all about it. We are big fans of the person who performed as well as one of her three opening acts. When one of the musicians was grabbing his guitar, this post probably began to form in my mind (as do many, many posts I hardly ever get to - I am always blogging in my head).

B. Mark and I have started watching "New Girl" with Zooey Deschanel (how freaking adorable is she?!?) and her endearing, yet awkward mannerisms fed this post idea a bit more.

C. One of her roommates in the show is a temperamental guy who is sweet at heart. While he is fairly average and even a bit nondescript; to me, he is very good looking. More fuel for this post fire.

So here goes - 10 items or characteristics that I find sexy:

1. A guitar - there is something about a guy holding a guitar, carrying a guitar, playing a guitar . . . I don't care if it's cliché, it's sexy just the same. 

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2. A loosened tie -this one has always done something for me. I don't know why, but it does.

3. Geeky awkwardness - a touch of this, in any person - male or female, makes them that much more attractive to me. I love it on Zooey, Adam Levine (yes, he has a smidge of this quality along with his smoking hot looks), Taylor Swift . . . the list goes on and on. I don't know quite how to describe it. I'm not talking poindexter and pocket protectors. I'm talking just a smidge of dorkiness, enough to endear. I love it.

4. Smarts - Mmmmmm, yes. This one really should top this list. Book smarts? Intelligence? Intellect? It makes me swoon. A Renaissance man? Oh yeah. Nothing sexier than a guy who is smart, creative, cooks, writes, cleans, is kind and thoughtful, reads, knows current events, works out, builds, has a career, is musical . . . I love that I'm married to a Renaissance Man. Anything less would be boring. Bonus that my husband is not status quo. What I mean is, he isn't afraid to think outside the box. He isn't stereotypical (yet he doesn't go out of his way to be "different."). He simply is who he is - someone who isn't afraid to not live in a subdivision, not have a typical job, not conform to what's expected if it isn't true to him or his values. I love that.

5. Witty banter - This is sexy and fun. I like wit. I like when someone is witty in writing, in speaking, in instant messaging, in email, in texts. I like to laugh and I like keeping things light and not getting too heavy or dramatic. I like being with someone who makes me laugh and who makes me feel like joking around and being sarcastic and feisty. I like feeling that way, so it stands to reason that I like being with someone who helps me feel that way. I do my best writing when I feel that way, too, so this may even qualify as a "need." :P

6. Laugh Lines - Some people call them "crow's feet," but that sounds ugly. And they're just not. They're adorable and attractive. My dad had the best laugh lines. When he would smile and laugh, his whole face would light up, his eyes would scrunch up small, and laugh lines would appear and deepen all around the corners of his eyes. It's one of the many things I miss about him. Laugh lines were attractive to me as a little girl. They are attractive to me now.

7. Kindness - SO attractive. I do not get it when people think they're so funny or manly or tough when they're getting their jollies at another's expense, pitching a fit, yelling, throwing things, being mean to people, etc. That's more like a list of turn offs. An angry temper? Not generally my thing (though I suppose there is a time and a place - and when appropriate, yes, it can be attractive - assertiveness is sexy). Seeing someone roll around and play on the floor with his or her kids, a thoughtful good deed, an emotional, tender side . . . those things are more attractive than smug, angry, tough guy characteristics. Balance is key on this one - swinging too much to either side of the spectrum is not cool.

8. A messenger bag or backpack - It's simple, but it works for me. 

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9. British accent - Oh *swoon!* Okay, so this is the only thing on this list that my husband doesn't have (though, 'ay, we could bloody well pretend!), but I must admit, it makes me a bit weak in the knees. And I know I'm not alone in this. 

10. Emotion/Passion/Confidence - Talk about a triple threat. For me, a man comfortable enough in his own masculinity to talk about attractive people, whether male or female, has that confidence. Someone who carries him or herself with poise and grace and integrity - that is sexy. Someone who cares about important issues like equal rights and general morality, who educates himself on those topics and uses logic, reason, and empathy to come to conclusions - attractive, attractive, attractive. Someone passionate enough to get up and dance, fight for what's right, make bold moves in career and life - yowza. Someone who knows what he values and lives his life accordingly - yes, please. Authenticity. Someone who knows that crying isn't a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength. Someone who doesn't care what others think, who knows that what matters is living true to yourself and your family. It's qualities like these that add actual physical attractiveness to a person.

What items or characteristics do you find sexy and attractive?