Monday, February 14, 2011

PA Dutch 101

I know today is Valentine's Day, but I won't post about that yet as my honey is still finding clues for his Valentine from me to him. I'll likely post about that later . . .

No, today's post is about local speak, or what locals call "Dutchy." This area was not settled by the Dutch. It was settled by Germans. The "Pennsylvania Dutch" are descendants of German immigrants from Germany and Switzerland. So, why then is it called "Dutch?" Well, that comes from the German's own "Deutsch." It is believed that that word, over time, evolved into a more colloquial and folksy "Dutch," hence, Pennsylvania Dutch.

We live in a beautiful area -- think a beautiful mixture of trees and wide open spaces, farmland, covered bridges, big red barns, and old stone farmhouses. I fell in love with this area as soon as we moved here. We've been here 8 years so far and I never tire of the scenery and landscape.




Milton Hershey set up his famous chocolate factory here because of the proximity to so many dairy farms (milk for chocolate products). Living down the street from a place called "Chocolate World" is pretty great, too. We're also minutes from the Appalachian Trail.

There are many Amish and Mennonites in our area. We interact with them often and our local Walmart even has a designated "horse and buggy" parking area for them. Because many of them don't use electricity, it is common to see laundry hanging on lines and men working the land being pulled by oxen rather than tractors.


Life has a much slower pace here and it's one of the many charms of this small-town, provincial life. Other charms include local "Dutchy" foods as well as "Dutchy" speak. I was thinking the other day of all the odd-to-outsiders sayings and foods from here to which we've grown somewhat accustomed and I thought it would be fun to make a post about them. So, here we go.

Awhile - When you go out to eat here and the server comes over to see if you'd like a drink to start, a local waiter or waitress will ask, "Would you like a drink awhile?" The first time I was asked this, I was confused and replied, "While I what?" There is some controversy and speculation as to what that actually means. Most take it to mean, "Would you like to drink something while you wait for a little while?" People use it all the time. I once heard a mother ask her child, "Would you like to wait in the car awhile?"

Back in 2005, I asked one of my Google Researcher colleagues, who lives in Germany and is über-intelligent, about the phrase. He says that it could come from a German word. Here is his explanation:

I think I can explain that phenomenon. In the examples you provided, the English awhile is used much like the modern German word inzwischen. Would you like a drink awhile? - Möchten Sie inzwischen etwas trinken? Inzwischen means as much as "in the meantime", "while something else is happening", and the like. But inzwischen is a rather modern word. Since the German heritage of Pennsylvania dates back to the 17th, 18th and 19th centuries, I'd say that the original German word was derweil - this is hardly used in modern German, but it was used the same way. Derweil is pronounced dare-while - there is a certain similarity to awhile, maybe even a common root.

My theory is that "awhile" took the place of "derweil" when Pennsylvania Germans used English, because it sounded familiar and was even understandable to their English-speaking neighbors.
Seriously, isn't he awesome? Word.

Needs Changed/Needs Washed/Needs Cleaned -- Since my friend Oliver was so great about answering my first question, I soon followed up with another one:

People around here leave out the "to be" verb a lot. At first, I thought I just didn't hear them or maybe they mumbled that part, but no. It seems they really just DROP it right out of the sentence! For example:

(Stressed out woman) "I need refreshed." (Instead of "I need some refreshing" or "I need to be refreshed.")
(Speaking of a messy house or something) "It needs cleaned." (Instead of "It needs to be cleaned.")
(This one's even more painful) "She needs talked to."

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To be or not to be? Seems it's not. unsure.gif
Try as he might, he couldn't come up with a German explanation for that one. It is a local way of speaking (and one that drives my grammar-loving ear a bit crazy). We often see advertisements on signs and in ads that say, "Car need cleaned?" or "Lawn need mowed?" And suddenly, Hamlet's soliloquy recites itself in my head.

Supper - Most people, from what I can tell call the 3rd meal of the day "dinner," but not around here (at least not the older generation). It's supper. The only other time I hear that is when we watch Little House on the Prairie. I remember calling a local business soon after we moved here and when I asked what time they closed, the man answered, "Oh, about supper time." I thanked him, hung up, and squealed in delight, "I love where we live! He said they close at supper time!!" I was so done with the big-city sprawl of Phoenix where places closed at 5pm or 9pm. Closing "about supper time" seemed so very charming.

"Devil"/Deviling - This is a local word people use to mean ribbing someone or teasing someone or generally giving someone a hard time in good fun. I have clients who use this term and it's almost always said with a twinkle of the eye, as in, "My son was going out on his first date, so I was deviling him" or "Awww, I like to devil her about her quirky ways" or "He's always deviling him about his steady stream of girlfriends."

Religious signs on road sides, restaurants, and local businesses - Yep, we're on the upper edge of the buckle on the "Bible Belt" and we're sometimes reminded of it when we drive around town. For instance, the country buffet down the road has a flashing sign that will tell us alternatively, "Meatloaf Tonight," "Jesus Saves," and "Abortion Kills." Or you might see scriptures painted on the side of barns. Or you might even see chipper signs like this one as you're driving down the road:

Picture from Skyscrapercity.com

Good times.

Rammy - Now this is one of my favorite words that I'm glad exists. I think it's a handy word and would love to see it catch on and spread among all who speak English and raise children or puppies. Someone must have figured that there ought to be a word to describe when children and/or puppies are bouncing off the walls, extra excited or hyper, can't quite sit still, don't really seem to want to listen, aren't particularly interested in calming down, getting a little lippy, running around in circles, jumping up and down, not paying attention to any task in particular, generally making their family wish to tear out their hair, seeming a little hyped up on who knows what, extra mischievous, extra energetic, and all around seemingly incapable of napping, laying down, or quieting themselves and that person must have somehow come up with the word "rammy." I like it. It's a great catch-all word that at once describes oh so many things.

Let and Leave - Grammar nerd that I am, this one drives me even crazier than the elimination of the infinitive ("to be") in conjunction with the past particle. Many people mix up the use of these two words. For example, a person might say, "Let your jacket on the bench" or "Leave him be!" Or if they're talking about deciding to move on and not hold a grudge they will say, "I just left it go." You might hear, "Let him alone" or "Leave me do it again." I saw an example of this the other day at a local studio. This is the sign on the playroom there:


You get the idea.

"And that" - Now this one is one I mostly hear from the real old-timers and not so much the younger generation. It reminds me of the filler "like" or "um" that younger people often like to use and it is often said as the voice sort of trails off while saying it. The older my client, the more likely I am to hear this phrase as they tell me a story. So, it might sound something like this, "I was going to the store and that and when we got there, there was a sale on chicken parts and that. So, I stocked up and put it in my carriage and that. We put it in the freezer and save it for a party and that." It's a quirky one and kind of cute really. Something about it can be, at times, endearing.

Now, let's take a break from words and talk food. Here are some examples of local fare:

Red Beet Eggs

picture from recipebridge.com

This is one of Thing 1's favorite local foods. It is a typical food brought by locals to pot lucks and picnics. They're actually quite good. The boiled eggs are pickled along with beets and served cold.

Potato Filling

picture from recipebridge.com

This is one of my personal favorites. It is basically a mix of mashed potatoes and bread and onions like you have in stuffing. I love this stuff.

Brown Butter Noodles

Picture from chewingthefat.us.com

This is another of my favorites. It's so easy to make and has such a flavorful and distinct taste, that I often make this as a side dish. You simply melt butter in a saucepan and heat it until it just turns brown (be careful not to let it burn -- when it turns brown, it's one tiny step from burning). Then you simply mix in your cooked noodles. That's it! YUM. As a side note, it is very easy around here to buy locally made Amish homemade noodles as well.

Birch Beer or Root Beer

Mark and his childhood best friend Peter in May 2009

I know that's not a picture of birch beer or root beer, but it is a picture of us visiting an Amish farm to buy homemade root beer. It's VERY strong and really good! Thing 2 loves that it's such a big deal around here (birch beer is his favorite and root beer is his 2nd favorite). The homemade stuff you can buy on Amish farms is especially good. It is one of the first things we do whenever we take guests to visit the Amish country (hear that, Lindsay, Scott, and Ada?).

Pretzels (and chips) - I know, the whole world has pretzels. But not like we have here. Did you know that Pennsylvania is considered the snack capital of the world? I'm not sure that's something to be proud of, but there it is. We have about 769 varieties of pretzels and pretzel-related products. Okay, so I made that number up, but we do have A LOT of pretzel stuff here. They're dipped in stuff and stuffed with stuff (and sometimes both)! Think chocolate, peanut butter, caramel, nuts, candy. There are lots of pretzel factories here. Some let kids actually work the line and make pretzels. There are hard pretzels, beer pretzels, sourdough pretzels, snack pretzels, pretzel nubs, soft pretzels. Oh, and the mustards and dipping honeys! So. Many. Pretzels. Chips, too, but I like pretzels more than chips. And they're a bigger deal here. We have a very local pretzel shop near us and when you go there on Saturdays, you wait in a long line to get fresh hard or soft pretzels and oh are they good!! We also like to visit pretzel shops in the Amish country:

Me and my Sweetie in May 2009

And yes, that's the real name of the town. Just imagine the T-shirts. One of my favorites is "Virginia is for lovers, but Pennsylvania has Intercourse."

Lebanon Bologna - This is a local delicacy and it's such a big deal that the town of Lebanon (pronounced Léb-uh-nin) drops a big bologna every New Year's Eve. It is called bologna (and pronounced phonetically), but it tastes like salami.

photo from citypaper.net
Pretty good with mustard.

Pork and Sauerkraut - Given the Germanic origins of this place, this one should be no surprise. A neat little bit of trivia? This is the traditional meal of the New Year, thought to bring you good luck for the rest of the year (and bad luck if you don't eat some). It's tender and delicious and generally served with mashed potatoes. Sauerkraut is also often served on hot dogs here, which I also like.

picture from aspoonfulofthyme.blogspot.com

It smells great while cooking, but then again, I like the smell of vinegar. :)

Scrapple - You know what? I'm just going to let Wikipedia describe it for you: Scrapple is . . .

. . . traditionally a mush of pork scraps and trimmings combined with cornmeal and flour, often buckwheat flour, and spices. The mush is formed into a semi-solid congealed loaf, and slices of the scrapple are then panfried before serving. Scraps of meat left over from butchering, not used or sold elsewhere, were made into scrapple to avoid waste.

picture from phoodie.info
where they call scrapple
"Meatloaf's Grotesque Philly-Born Cousin"

What? Does that not sound appetizing to you? Don't worry. Even many of the locals won't touch it. You can find it easily in stores and farmers' markets, though, if you do have a hankering.

Chicken Pot Pie -

picture from http://oodlekadoodleprimitives.blogspot.com/

Oh, I'm sorry, were you expecting pie? Yeah, me, too. The first time we ever had this, we were participating in a fabulous dinner co-op (where you cook one night and other families cook the other nights and you all deliver dinner on your nights? GENIUS!). Anyway, we all filled out menus so we'd know what to make/expect. The menu said "chicken pot pie" so we expected, you know, pie. We figured crust, filling, fork. We got something that looked like this. I thought they had messed up and confused nights, so I told my friend, "Hey, the menu said chicken pot pie. What you brought was delicious, but what was it?" She laughed and said, "Chicken pot pie!" I was so confused. Around here, chicken pot pie is more like chicken and dumplings. It's delicious, but it is emphatically not pie.

Apple Butter - This is a traditional and delicious topping for toast and muffins. Breakfast is big around here with farm fresh eggs and amazing sausage (and scrapple). Apple butter is often found on your table along with butter and jams.

picture from closetcooking.com

I like it if it's not too sweet. A lot of stuff is sweetened around here and I'm not a fan. I prefer salty to sweet.


Pig Stomach - I had the pleasure of sampling this not too long ago during one of my mother's visits. She comes so often and stays so long that she has loads of friends in the area. One of her friends really wanted to treat her to a traditional "Dutchy" meal so she made reservations at a local restaurant and made sure they saved two pig stomachs -- one for her and one for my mom. She loved it! And I have to say, Thing 1 and I liked it, too.

picture from yorkblog.com

It is also called "Hog Maw" and is made with the lining of the stomach which is quite muscular and has no fat if it's cleaned properly. It is then stuffed with cubed potatoes and pork sausage (I'm telling you, the sausage here is go-ood!). It also often has cabbage, onions, and spices. I'm telling you, don't balk. It's pretty good. It is also found at local farmers' markets.

And of course . . .

The Philly Cheese Steak - Never mind that TastyKakes and soft pretzels hail from Philly, this is the food the city is known for. From About.com:

But people in other parts of the U.S. often don't even know what a cheesesteak is. No, they're not Steak-Ums. Steak-Ums are a substitute - like Egg Beaters are to chicken eggs.

Real cheesesteaks are cooked fresh, covered with American cheese, provolone or Cheese-Whiz and rest in a roll dripping with grease. Sound disgusting? You're obviously not from this town.

Cheesesteaks were invented in South Philadelphia in the 1930's at Pat's Steaks, located in the heart of South Philadelphia, hence the addition of "Philly" to the name. They were originally topped with a pizza sauce, (now called a pizza steak).

Where to find the best cheesesteak is a question that will forever be debated throughout the area. Only in Philadelphia could two places stay open all night selling cheesesteaks -- right across the street from each other -- and both do a thriving business.


picture from herdaily.com

I wish I could remember the name of the place we had THE BEST Philly Cheese Steaks. It was in a hole in the wall place in Philly and it was recommended to us by the then husband of yet another of my Google Answers Researcher colleagues. The place was a total dive. But OH was that ever an amazing sandwich. So delicious. I'm going to have to ask my friend to remind me of the name. It was so good and we haven't had a better one since (though you can get many varieties at local sandwich shops here).

Okay, enough about food. Back to words. (But you're hungry now, right? So am I.)

As a quick note, I do want to mention that quilts and furniture are also big around here. The Amish make beautiful quilts and their woodworking is superb. Many local shops have beautiful displays of both and you could spend a long time admiring the handiwork and attention to detail of both the men and the women.

Seen vs. Saw -Another localism I hear around here now and then is "I seen it" (rather than "I saw it"). It's kind of like let and leave. They get mixed up. Well, I guess that's not really accurate, because those I hear use the phrase "I seen it" don't use the word "saw" at all from what I can remember. So, even in the third person, it would still be "He seen it" or "They seen it." Hmmm, curious. I wonder why that is. I don't really know. I don't think it's a German thing.

"Leaving town" -This is a funny one. A friend of mine who lives down the street was going up to Rhode Island and Massachusetts with her husband for their anniversary. I knew they were leaving the following week when she, one day, called me on the phone. She told me she was "out of town" and I got confused thinking they'd already traveled up to New England earlier than I would've expected. I asked where they were (I could hear that they were driving) and she named a town about 20 minutes away and literally two towns down the road. Well, I busted up laughing and said, "You're out of town?!?" And she said, in all seriousness, "Yes," and told me the town they were in again. I couldn't help it. I kept laughing. I really thought she was kidding. But nope, she was serious. Apparently, if she's not in her EXACT town, she considers herself as being "out of town." I "devil" my friend about this often asking if she's out of town, if she's packed, does she have an itinerary, etc. It's a running joke now.

Inflection of questions -This is more about how people speak around here rather than exact words. People here often ask questions with a different inflection than one generally hears. I'll give examples to illustrate -- words in ALL CAPS signify words that have the emphasis and rising inflection to indicate a question being asked:

In other places I've lived, people ask, "Are you going to the PARK?"
Here, people ask, "Are you GOing to the Park?"

"Did you get the MAIL?"
"Did you GET the mail?"

"Have you talked to your MOM?"
"Have you TALKED to your Mom?"

And the question here is almost asked as a statement. If that makes sense. It's very catchy, too. We often find ourselves speaking the same way (well, I do anyway -- I pick stuff up like that everywhere I go). I'm very impressionable and highly suggestible like that. Thing 2 does it, too. Of course, we moved here when he was 6 months old. Mark and Thing 1 don't do it as much.

Anyway, it's a lovely area -- beautiful landscape and a wonderfully slower pace of life. People here are a bit reticent and more closed off than other parts of the country, but they're hard-working, salt of the earth people. It's a little "too" conservative for our liking sometimes, but it's also a great place to raise a family and make great friends. It's beautiful here. I can't say that enough. The food is plentiful and delicious. And there's so much to see and do. And if you want to get away from the small town for a bit, NYC and DC are not that far at all and make excellent day trips.

I LOVE to visit big cities -- I am very comfortable traipsing around Boston, New York, Washington DC, etc. But, and maybe it's my New England upbringing, I am a small-town girl at heart and that is most definitely the place for me. I am a million times more comfortable in our day to day here than I ever felt living in bigger cities. We all love the East. And living close the coast is a must. If you ever want to visit PA Dutch Country, you know where to stay. :) We won't make you eat scrapple.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Monday, February 7, 2011

Life Comes At You Fast

(I wrote this post on October 19th and just saw it sitting in my drafts, so I'll post it today. I'm thinking it got away from me with NaNoWriMo getting into full swing. It seems fitting since this month in our homeschool group, our kids are taking classes on finances -- spending/saving/budgeting/interest/credit cards/investing/bills/taxes/etc.).

Photo from www.WNYC.org

Fun Fact #1:


In the past month, we've received the following bills due to varying life necessities, including health care, dental care, and heating costs (we carry our own high-deductible health insurance):

$1700 (medical out of pocket -- this one later turned out to be half this, thanfully)
$680 (dental out of pocket)
$5400 (orthodontic out of pocket for Thing 1 -- keeping in mind we've already paid an additional $1800 for some previous work for her and it looks like we'll have similar orthodontic bills for Thing 2 as well) -- at least these can be paid in installments
$960 (oil for heating our home this winter--that one came today)
$450 for auto insurance (we pay that twice a year -- really not bad)
upcoming unknown amount for a medical ENT procedure
upcoming unknown amount for fixing our van -- it occasionally doesn't start
upcoming unknown amount for replacing our 12-year-old couches that look like this:


This hole is significantly bigger now.

See, my awesome physician husband
uses his stitching skills on more than just
cuts and skin suturing
-- he's extended the longevity of our couches.

Seriously, he's really good.

But, alas, the rips have grown much bigger.
We love our couch set and would replace it with the
exact same set if it still existed.

Remember, most of these pictures
are from October,
so use your imagination
and really widen those holes
and rips in your mind.
There.
Now double that and you're about there.


Fun Fact #2:

Those bills are "extras" and do not include our regular monthly bills, which include two mortgages and student loan repayment as well as business overhead and malpractice insurance (ka-ching!), not to mention food, electricity, insurance, etc.


Fun Fact #3:

Both Mark and I hear SUCH sad stories from our clients who are also struggling. Part of my job often involves hearing about people's financial difficulties and stresses. It is so hard and conflicting to charge people for a session after they've told you how scared and stressed they are financially--because you feel awful for charging them because you know they're hurting, yet you know you also have to make money, because you, too, have financial obligations. We love having our own business in so many ways, but we also get pretty close to our clients and you really feel for them and all they're going through. Ugh. I often think of how nice it would be to be rich and just go around helping people who have it rough.


Some famous quotes dancing around in my head:

Ferris Bueller famously said, "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."

Nationwide keeps telling us, "Life comes at you fast."

And then of course we know that, "There are some things money can't buy. For everything else, there's Mastercard."


Two New Books -- Generation Debt: While doing some research online, I've come across two new books that address the issue of how our generation is burdened by debt and having a harder time getting ahead than generations before ours.

Generation Debt, by Anya Kamenetz, takes a look at the major economic shift that is happening in our country.

I feel extra prescient and smart, because her research backs my own personal theory that I've had since the mid-1990s. Back then I was saying that it used to be skills that got you a job, then it was a high school diploma, then it was a college diploma, and now it's a graduate degree plus experience.

Our generation faces different challenges than that of the generation before ours. And I do think that, because of that, sometimes our generation seem like "slackers" to the baby boomers. But only if you don't look at the facts that this book presents.

From the publisher:
In this thoroughly researched and rousing manifesto, Anya Kamenetz chronicles and questions the plight of the new "youth class": 18- to 29-year-olds who are drowning in debt and therefore seemingly unable to "grow up." Many older adults perceive today's youth as immature slackers, "twixters," or "boomerang kids," who simply cannot get their act together, but Kamenetz argues that this perception is a misinformed stereotype.

Numerous economic factors have combined to create a perfect storm for the financial and personal lives of America's youth: a college degree is essential for employment yet financially crippling to many, government grants for education are at an all-time low, Social Security and Medicare are on their deathbeds, and our parents and grandparents are retiring earlier and living longer.

It is soooooooooo different now than it was for our parents. My mom has often told us the story about how she and my Dad went into the bank to get a mortgage. The banker met with them, shook their hand saying, "You seem like a nice couple," and gave them their loan. That was it.

Our generation has about 168 pages of information to fill out, multiple background and credit checks, and skeptical looks from all lenders and bankers.

My parents got that loan and then paid off their home in 7 years. 7 years! No eating out, no buying clothes (they sewed all their own clothing), etc., but they paid if off in 7 years.

The generation before theirs? Some didn't even take out loans at all! The other night in book club, one of our friends talked about how her grandparents paid CASH for their home and there was a murmur of consent and a lot of nodding all around as many could vouch for the fact that just TWO generations before ours (one for some of our book club members), many paid CASH for their homes. That was, for many, the norm!

So, two generations ago, they paid cash. One generation ago, they paid off their homes in a few years, and now our generation can barely afford a home in 30 years? What has happened??

Those of our parents' generation were marketable with high school diplomas, bonus if they had a college degree. And even many jobs without either of those paid decently to start.

Our generation is faced with a dilemma: cheap labor or expensive schooling? People our age can go into massive debt for an education and a chance of getting ahead or get an $8/hour job at Home Depot.

Economic shift indeed. Read this short article for some alarming facts. Seriously, read it. Stop reading our blog and go back and read it. I mean it.

All right. Welcome back. Ahem. I was saying . . .

Today's middle class, college-educated families are among the poor families getting food at food banks.



Two New Books -- Strapped:

Strapped: Why America's 20- and 30-Somethings Can't Get Ahead, by Tamara Draut, has a peppy title that just screams hope and optimism, doesn't it?

This book has more of a political slant to it, in that it addresses how things have shaped up the way they have thanks to a generation of leaders more interested in serving the wealthy than investing in the future.

But here is one fun fact from one of the reviews on the above-linked site:

'Today's college grads are making less than the college grads of thirty years ago.' In fact, men aged 25 to 34 with bachelor's degrees are making just $6,000 more than those with high school diplomas did in 1972.

From the publisher:

Drowning in student loan and credit card debt? Can’t afford to get married, buy a home, have children? At last, a book for the under-35 generation (and their parents) that explains why it is not their fault.

Strapped offers a groundbreaking look at the new obstacle course facing young adults—the under-35 crowd—as they try to build careers, buy homes, and start families. As Tamara Draut explains, getting ahead is getting harder. A college degree is the new high school diploma—but it now costs a fortune to get that degree, and students graduate with crippling debts. Good jobs are scarcer thanks to stagnant wages and disappearing benefits. And, the cost of everything—starter homes, health coverage, child care—keeps going up and up. Budding families, even those with two incomes, struggle to pay the bills, while Visa and Mastercard have become the new safety net. Young adults are starting out behind the financial eight ball—borrowing their way into adulthood and wondering whatever happened to the American Dream.


And that closing line is what leads me to my next point . . .


Is this a purely American phenomenon?

Is it? I mean, obviously there are countries FAR poorer than ours. I've lived in them. We have SO MUCH here -- running water, electricity, indoor toilets. We have the Internet, we have so many resources, we have choices. Honestly, we have it pretty good!

But it also seems Americans are all TIRED and run ragged in the pursuit of the basic American Dream of home ownership.

I often wonder about people in countries like Portugal and Italy. People there work hard but they really know how to live and relax, too. They own small homes, use public transportation, and spend a lot of time in their backyards (if they have them) and at cafés drinking and relaxing
with friends. (Ha! After writing this post and without even trying, I found this article that backs this up, too!)

In the movie "Eat, Pray, Love," an Italian man in a barbershop says, "Americans know entertainment, but they don't know pleasure. Italians know pleasure." I think that's true!

So, yeah, sometimes I daydream about buying a small villa in Portugal or Italy and living simply. Is it less expensive there or are they just smarter? I don't know.

But we do love where we live and so we're now back to the bills and expenses mentioned at the beginning of this post in the fun facts.

And this leads me to my next point . . .


What's your take? The other evening, I was at the coffeehouse with a bunch of my friends and we were talking about life and kids and college and retirement (yes, we've long graduated from playgroups to discussions of IRAs and 529s . . . or the lack thereof). I later spoke with a couple of the dads from the group as well. Here is a little look see at how the group broke down:

Women #1 and #2 did not have college paid for them and do not feel that they can afford to pay for college for their own children either as they feel they can't afford to do both (that and retirement).

Women #3 and #4 had college paid for them and also want to pay for college for their kids.

Men #1 and #2 didn't have college paid for and don't want their children to have to go through what they did, so they want to be able to pay for it.

I've talked to others, too, from different situations and the big breakdown seems to be:

Didn't have college paid for -------> Won't pay for kids' college (it's what they know)
Didn't have college paid for -------> Want to pay for kids' college (it sucked for them)
Did have college paid for -------> Want to pay for kids' college (was great - want to share)

So, most want to pay, but the question is how to afford it when, you know, "life comes at you fast."

As a good friend of mine who reads this blog (you know who you are) says (and I agree with him), "I brought them into this world. I figure the least I can do is educate them."

And let's not forget investing for retirement . . .

So, Generation X/Generation Y (we fit into both of these, depending on which chart/article we reference, but more often it's "X") . . . where do you stand? How do you think we fare compared to past generations? Are you more often scared and stressed? Or happy and hopeful? What do you hope for your own children?

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Fantasya

The Magic Violinist has posted the first four chapters of her NaNoWriMo book (unedited) on her blog.

See, when you do NaNoWriMo, you're supposed to put away your inner editor (Mark and I turned ours off. Thing 1 put hers under her bed. Thing 2 put his at the bottom of the clothes hamper -- and he keeps turning up in the laundry!) and just WRITE.

And write we do!

Enjoy her story!

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Unveiling . . .

Thing 1 and Thing 2
have something new!
And they want to
share it with you!

It is not a frog.
It is not a log.
It is not a hog.
It IS a blog!

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Listen up, Groundhog.

Photo from MNN.com


I know who you are and I know where you live.


We don't live far from you.

Someday we'll actually be in Punxsutawney when you come out of your burrow and the strangely dressed man holds you up in the air for all to see. It's on our Bucket List under "Foolish Things We'll Do Anyway."


But that is besides the point.

It's been a fine winter. Lovely even, though cold.

I, myself, have burrowed and hibernated. It's winter. The earth rests and, apparently, so do I.

I wear comfy clothes, drink warm beverages, eat root vegetables and soups, commemorate winter solstice, cozy up with blankets, read good books, and rarely wear make up.


But enough is enough.


I'm warning you, Phil. When you step out of that burrow tomorrow, close your eyes if you have to, but do not -- I repeat -- do
not look at your shadow.

Just don't.


That is all.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

More Random Happenings

I'm having another GIRLS' WEEKEND in a few weeks
and I am SO excited!
Cathy and Kellie are coming
(and Cathy is bringing her girls).
And maybe EJ, too.
And maybe even my Mom.

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I get annoyed when people try to talk to me
when I'm singing along to music,
especially if it's a great upbeat
Katy Perry type song.

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Thing 2 recently turned 8.
On his birthday, he said (of this pattern):


"I think I need new sheets. I'm not 4, you know."

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Our book club is being featured in a book!
The author of The Book Club Cook Book contacted me
and has been emailing us over the past several weeks!
Our club will be featured as will the recipes we used
for our discussion of the book
Half-Broke Horses.
We have 14 members -- men and women.

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Thing 1 has been blogging again,
so be sure to check it out.

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Even though she hasn't been blogging much
on her own blog.
She and Thing 2 (and lots of their friends)
have been blogging A TON
on the blog the kids have made for Jake.
It's a way to keep in touch with Jake
when he's at the hospital.

Visiting our friend Jake in the hospital

Early this past fall, Jake's clinical staff came and did a "classroom" presentation to all the kids explaining what leukemia is and what Jake's going through. Afterward, we took this picture. Jake's in the middle holding Ellie.

Jake and Ellie

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Our kids are really good typists.
Thing 1 has a score of 3.504 seconds
on this typing test. Mark and I can't even break 5 seconds.

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Thing 2 has his first Pinewood Derby
this weekend. Mark and the kids
have been painting cars and getting ready!

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In March, we're getting more visitors!!
Mark's brother Scott and his wife Lindsay
and their baby Ada

are coming to stay with us for a week!
We got their itinerary yesterday.
We're excited -- it's the first time
in the 8 years we've lived here so far
that we've hosted a "sibling family"
on Mark's side!

Monday, January 24, 2011

No wonder I didn't want to get out of bed . . .


Double Click on that picture
and look closely at the blue box
in the bottom right corner.

Friday, January 21, 2011

Random Thoughts and Happenings

I can't do any yoga positions that involve putting my head and/or hands on the ground without greatly exciting Scout. For whatever reason, she starts jumping up on my head and shoulders and scratching enthusiastically. It's kind of funny because one of the positions is called Downward Facing Dog.

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Mark and the kids are moving up the Tae Kwon Do belt advancements!


Here's my crew!
Thing 2 as a high yellow belt
and Mark and thing 1 as yellow belts.


And here they are after their promotions test!
Thing 2 as a green belt
and Thing 1 and Mark as high yellow belts!
(Thing 2 started doing Tae Kwon Do first).
I'm so proud of them and it's crazy fun to watch them.

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Thing 1 played in her first ensemble recital
and it was really neat to hear her play as part of an ensemble group like that.

I wish we could've gotten video of it, too.

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And in more violin news,
Thing 1 will be playing at Carnegie Hall in the spring!
NYC, here we come!

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I've noticed that tight jeans are making a comeback.
I'm not a fan AT ALL.
Especially, and this can not be emphasized enough, especially on guys.

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Thing 2 heard someone's cell phone going off in the changing room at Tae Kwon Do the other day. He came home laughing SO HARD about it that I had to look it up.
And then I laughed so hard, too.
You have to hear this: Click here to laugh so hard, too.
If I weren't such a cell phone illiterate,
I'd figure out how to put it on my phone.

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Burt Hummel.
Best TV Dad EVER.

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This month, our homeschool group is focusing on FUN.
Every week we do something fun as a group.
Week 1 - Bowling
Week 2 - Laser Tag
Week 3 - Roller Skating
We have an awesome group and we're having such a great time.

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Thing 1 read the entire Hunger Games series in 3 days --
she read each book in a day.

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Thing 2 said to me yesterday,
"Scout was gaping stupidly at me while chewing her toy."
I responded, "Where'd you get that phrase?"
"Harry Potter."
Awesome.

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Saturday, January 15, 2011

NaNoReCap

I wrote this about a month ago. Between the holidays, a sinus infection, and posting other stuff, I haven't gotten around to posting it until now. Here it is . . .

Sometimes I talk to myself. I thought I'd interview myself to review this year's NaNoWriMo experience.

Q. Why did you write in the 3rd person instead of the 1st person this year?
A. Because I wanted to try it out and challenge myself.

Q. So, how did that work?
A. It didn't. What was I thinking? Oh well, at least I learned something from it. Like one of my professors in grad school says, "Having a 'bad' internship isn't a waste -- you learn what you don't like." I'm sticking to writing in the first person. Apparently, I write significantly better that way.

Q. Did you write the recommended 1,667 words every day?
A. Um, no. I wrote around 2,000 words a day for the first few days with grand plans of being done by Thanksgiving, then I spent days not writing at all, then I spent days trying to play 'catch up,' then I spent days not writing at all, then I considered ditching the whole thing, and then I wrote around 5-10 thousand words a day to pull off winning it. We barely pulled it off, but we did it. (I'm speaking for me and Mark there. Our kids? Significantly more on the ball than their parents).

Q. What made you not give up?
A. My husband's astute observation that we spent way too many days writing and worrying about word counts to give up. He's awesome.

Q. It seems like most authors have dogs. Does having a dog make you a better writer?
A. One would think. Scout doesn't like me sitting at my computer. She either scratches at my hand to get me to stop or she gives up and pathetically looks at me (eyes up, ears down) so that I cuddle her while I write. So, I don't know if it makes me a better writer or not. But I do love, love, love having her.

Q. So, you had a contest where readers got to guess whose first lines belonged to which authors. Your college roommate Katie won and got to choose the names of some minor characters. She chose "Clarence" and "Penelope." Where did they get used in the books?
A. My book transitioned from a character-driven story (less plot) to a Gothic novel (I got bored with my own story, so I tried to spice it up), and back to a simpler story. During its Gothic phase, I came up with a creepy story that became a legendary curse associated with the psychiatric hospital (Englewood Manor) where my four main characters all reunited (they kind of knew each other in high school). The young, aristocratic girl who used to live in Englewood Manor (when it was her mansion home and before it became a psychiatric hospital) but who later went psycho in a deathly jealous rage? Her name was Penelope. Thing 1 used Clarence as the name of one of her unicorns -- she says it worked perfectly because the names of all of her unicorns start with the letter "C." Thing 2's character names all came from the names of friends' wizards on Wizard101 and none of them are named Clarence or Penelope, so he says he didn't use the names for that reason. Mark's youth fiction novel is about an unlikely hero named Douglas. Mark says, "Clarence was the Giver of Quests early in my story. Penelope is a girl the main character meets along the way. Can't give away details, though." So, there you have it. Oh, and Thing 1 used the name "Cricket" as suggested by Jessica! :)

Q. What was your story about again?
A. It's about 4 people who kind of knew each other in high school (though none of them had been close then) who all end up meeting one another as adults in a psychiatric inpatient hospital. After some initial embarrassment, they all become friends and even go on to meet weekly at a local coffeehouse. Their weekly get togethers are something to which they all look forward and enjoy. The novel flashes back to their time in the psych hospital, but mostly covers the next year as they meet weekly. Their lives begin to intertwine and become more complicated. It is right around the time of their 20th high school reunion when everything comes to a head. That's all I'll say for now. Oh, one more thing. They all wonder about the curse of Englewood Manor and whether or not that curse is real. It seems to be, though, as all of them continue to sort of break down throughout the book.

Q. Can you tell a little more about the characters?
A. Okay. 4 main characters. 2 men. 2 women.

- One of the characters is a very attractive gay man ("Schwartz") who never felt able to fully be himself for fear of disappointing his parents. His parents were much older when they had him and he was the baby they didn't ever think they'd be able to have. They doted on him and adored him and he loved them, too. Once they died, he thought he would be "free," so to speak, to live a live true to himself and his own sexuality. As he gets older, though, he is torn between allowing himself to live an authentic life and continuing to hide that fact about himself for fear of somehow disrespecting his parents even in death. He is badly tormented by all of it. He is very well-liked by the other characters. He and Marnie especially develop a sweet closeness.

- One of the women ("Marnie") was always shy and quiet and sweet in high school and spent most of her life selflessly caring for ailing family members (grandmother, father, mother, etc.). When she is finally able to look out for herself and live her own life, she finds out she has a life-threatening illness. Her biggest regret is never having been in love and never having been with a man.

- The other man ("Brad") is a former high school football player stud who lived quite a cliché life, dating and marrying his high school sweetheart (a cheerleader). He owns his own construction business, handed down to him by generations before him. He and his wife have two children but live entirely separate lives. He even sleeps in the living room as they don't even share their bedroom anymore. She is rather, um, unpleasant and self-centered. Their marriage has deteriorated and is headed for divorce, but she is VERY into appearances and wants him to pretend to be happily married until after the high school reunion.

- The other female character ("Jenna") is a journalist and is the only one who didn't enter Englewood Manor for emotional issues -- she was covering a story for the newspaper. She was the salutatorian in her high school and had moved up in her career at a very rapid pace. She had been working for a major newspaper in a big city when the economy took a toll and she found herself unemployed and back in her hometown doing freelance work for the local paper. She had many liaisons, but never let a man, or any semblance of a real relationship with a man, get in the way of her career. Since she is unemployed, she has time to work on writing a novel, a lifelong wish of hers. She finds that the stories of her new friends and companions give her great fodder for her story. She feels sort of guilty for using them, but torn because she sincerely likes them, but she needed a story idea.

Q. Did your characters do unexpected things that surprised you?
A. Yes. There were several surprises. For example, one of the main characters started hitting on one of the other main characters and I did not see any of that coming. And a minor character VERY publicly confronts one of the major characters in a very embarrassing way exposing a hidden double life. There were other things, too, but I don't want to give it away.

Q. Anything else surprise you?
A. Yes. Apparently, I enjoy and am rather good at writing steamy scenes. Who knew?

Q. Were you able to pull off that ambiguous ending you wanted?
A. Yes. A tragic one, too. Get this. You know what? Never mind. I'll leave it at "yes."

Q. What were you going for with the ambiguous ending?
A. I was trying to recreate in a book the thing I love in many indie and foreign films that I enjoy so much -- a character-driven story that is light on plot and ambiguous in its ending. I love watching a movie that doesn't tie up neatly and makes me wonder and think about meaning and what might've happened. I was trying to do that in this book. I think I did it. Maybe not well, but I did it.

Q. Did you meet neat people while doing NaNoWriMo?
A. YES! I really enjoyed getting to know local WriMos. One of them is a Jedi (I kid you not -- she does actual stage combat with light sabers) and another had a SUPER COOL novel idea and amazed us all with her prep for NaNo. She even cast her characters with real actors and actresses and had an awesome Power Point of all of them. Super neat ideas. I wouldn't be surprised to see all of us steal that idea for next year. And several of us are already good friends.

Q. Did you get together often?
A. Yes! At least 1-2 times weekly. We had weekly write-ins as well as a kick-off party, a half-way there party, and a celebratory party.

Q. Did you like being ML (Municipal Liaison) for your area?
A. I did. I had no clue what I was doing, but I've got ideas for next time and I'm excited to do it again.

Q. Which novel do you like best so far? Your first one or second one?
A. First one. Hands down.

Q. Do you think you'll try to publish either book?
A. Yes. I want to work on editing and submitting my first book. I didn't love this one as much, though it was interesting in its own way. I might revisit the 2nd one, too, though. We'll see.

Q. Do you have more book ideas?
A. Yes! I thought of several new ideas after NaNoWriMo. And I'm happy about that, because I had NO idea what I was doing this year and that was disappointing.

Q. Will you do anything differently next year?
A. Yes. The first year was all new and I wrote a 1st person story that was funny. The second year, I tried writing a heavier story in the 3rd person. Next year, I'm going to try writing from an outline. I have a sneaking suspicion I'll like that (though I could be wrong). So besides sticking to funny (rather than heavy) and 1st person (rather than 3rd), I'm going to try an outline. I kind of like that NaNo gives me the opportunity to try different things each time, since it's kind of an "anything goes" kind of project.

Q. Did you almost switch from 3rd person to 1st person in your novel this year?
A. Yes! One of my WriMos suggested I just switch and write about each character from their own perspectives. I thought I would, but felt funny switching in the middle like that. So, I had one of them give a journal as a gift to one of the others. When she started writing in it, the words just flowed for me! That's when I really knew that writing in the 1st person is just better for me all around. I already suspected as much, but that clinched it.

Q. Do the kids enjoy NaNoWriMo?
A. Very much so. They have a great Young Writer's Program and our kids eat it up. They say it's their very favorite thing that we do as part of our schooling.

Q. So you'll do NaNoWriMo again?
A. Absolutely.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

2010 Year in Review

Saw this on my SIL Emily's blog. I can not resist these. I love sentence prompts! Filling this out made me realize that 2010 has been a pretty "average-ish" year for us. The kind that makes you sort of shrug your shoulders and say, "Eh." It's been fairly low-key overall for us--nothing spectacular, nothing awful. And we're totally okay with that. Grateful even.

  1. What did you do in 2010 that you’d never done before? Attended a Michael Bublé concert!

  2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year? Yes, using a "phrase of the year." And yes, I already did.

  3. Did anyone close to you give birth? Yes, my friend Kristie. And I got to be there!

  4. Did anyone close to you die? No. Thankfully, no.

  5. What countries did you visit? We didn't do much traveling other than the beach and my Mom's 70th birthday party.

  6. What would you like to have in 2011 that you lacked in 2010? I can't think of anything. Oh wait, maybe a kitchen renovation?

  7. What dates from 2010 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
    Aside from the usual ones, not much stands out big time other than going to the beach (wonderful), Jake's diagnosis (I don't think I'll ever forget how my stomach just DROPPED when I heard Kristie's voice on the phone), and Ellie's birth (so beautiful).

  8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? Helping organize meals, information dissemination, and house cleaning for our friends when their son was diagnosed with leukemia, writing another novel, and just general awesomeness.

  9. What was your biggest failure? Eh, I don't like to think in terms of failure. It is what it is.

  10. Did you suffer illness or injury? Again, thankfully, no. Just a couple of colds.

  11. What was the best thing you bought? I don't know. Corkboard tiles for my organizing wall? Books?

  12. Whose behavior merited celebration? Kristie's and Jake's.

  13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? I plead the 5th.

  14. Where did most of your money go? Mortgages, student loan payments, malpractice insurance, general bills, and retirement.

  15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? The beach and the Michael Bublé concert and just our general family and life situation. I'm genuinely happy.

  16. What song will always remind you of 2010? Maybe "Hey, Soul Sister" because we hear it so much or maybe "Don't Stop Believing" since we've recently discovered Glee.

  17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
    a) happier or sadder? If it's possible, happier.
    b) thinner or fatter? The same.
    c) richer or poorer? Richer?

  18. What do you wish you’d done more of? Again, it is what it is. I'm content.

  19. What do you wish you’d done less of? I suppose endless organizing of lists and emails?

  20. How did you spend Christmas? Here with my beautiful family, enjoying good food and a really nice holiday. Though I was sick with a horrible sinus infection and lost my voice and we didn't get to go to our friends' house on Christmas night. Bummer. But still, all in all, a nice holiday.

  21. Did you fall in love in 2010? Again and again.

  22. What was your favorite TV program? Glee. Discovered it in December, thanks to a great Christmas gift from friends.

  23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? I honestly don't hate anyone.

  24. What was the best book you read? A Tree Grows in Brooklyn and The Hunger Games series.

  25. What was your greatest musical discovery? Tristan Prettyman?

  26. What did you want and get? Desperately, a vacation at the beach. And it was fabulous.

  27. What did you want and not get? I had a couple of things I hoped would work out a certain way that didn't. But it's all good now, I think. ***ARGH. I cannot get this to put a break between #27 and #28. So, imagine it.***
  28. What was your favorite film of this year? Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Part 1

  29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I turned 36 and I spent the day with my family. My family and friends helped make it special.

  30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? A maid?

  31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2010? Branching out. I've started finding clothes that fit me better . . . in the Juniors Department. Don't laugh. I apparently still have a bit of a "short" complex.

  32. What kept you sane? What always keeps me sane? My family, my friends, and therapy skills. Oh, and texting. We like texting.

  33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? Hmmmm. I spent some time researching Prince William and Kate, but fancy? The same, old stand bys, I suppose -- John Cusack, Michael Bublé, Harry Connick, Jr., etc. I guess I'd add Will Schuester to the list. :P

  34. What political issue stirred you the most? Prop 8 and Healthcare and local economy stuff

  35. Who did you miss? My Dad.

  36. Who was the best new person you met? Ellie!

  37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2010. Getting together with old friends is so therapeutic. Have them over for a weekend. Play lots of Band Hero and eat lots of food.

  38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
    (Well, this doesn't sum up my year, but I'd be lying if I didn't say I felt like this at times watching Jake's struggle with leukemia -- seems horribly unfair for a child to go through that) ------- And I know that it's a wonderful world
    But I can't feel it right now
    Well I thought that I was doing well
    But I just want to cry now (Wonderful World, James Morrison)
(I like this song, too):
Chances are we´ll be the combination
Chances come and carry me
Chances are waiting to be taken
And I can see
Chances are the fascination
Chances won't escape from me
Chances are only what we make them
And all I need
(Chances, Five for Fighting)

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Kid Interviews - Favorites of 2010

I wrote my "phrase of the year" post yesterday.

Today, I'm interviewing our kids to journal their favorites of 2010. They are excited to do this.

Thing 1 - Age 10, 5th Grade

Favorite Color - Yellow
Favorite Food - Sushi
Favorite Drink - Pink Lemonade
Favorite Board or Card Game - Settlers of Catan (Seafarers)
Favorite Wii Game - Horse Life Adventures
Favorite Online Game - Webkinz and Wizard 101
Favorite DS game - Harry Potter Legos (Years 1-4)
Favorite Hobby - Reading and Writing
Favorite non-electronic thing to do - Reading and Writing
Favorite thing to do outside - Play on the swingset
Favorite Book - Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows
Favorite Movie - Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Part 1
Favorite TV show or Cartoon - Winx Club
Favorite Restaurant - Kugo's Steakhouse (for sushi)
Favorite Outdoor Spot - The climbing tree at the playground
Favorite Animal - Puppy
Favorite Fruit - Pears
Favorite Flower - Sunflower
Favorite Tree - Weeping Willow
Favorite Vegetable - (Avocado, but technically that's a fruit) Corn on the Cob
Favorite Snack - Popcorn
Favorite Stuffed Animal - Menedy (stuffed cat)
Favorite Sport - Soccer
Favorite Dessert - Extraordinary Chocolate Chip Cookies
Favorite Place to Vacation - The Beach
Favorite Houseguest - "I like it when Vavo visits. I also like when EJ visits and when Cathy and Kellie visit."
Favorite Ice Cream Flavor - Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough
Favorite Smell - Baking cookies
Favorite Aisle in Department Store - Books and Writing Supplies
Favorite Song - "Free" by Brooke White
Favorite Group or Singer - Brooke White and Taylor Swift
Favorite Season - Summer
B.F.F. - Kirsten
Favorite Room of the House - The Den and our bedroom
Favorite Day of the Week - Friday
Favorite Event of 2010 - Going to the Beach
Favorite Errand to Run - Going to the Library or Bookstore
Favorite Outfit - Jeans and my pink shirt with the girl and puppy on it
Favorite Instrument to Play - Violin
Favorite Phrase - Tishma! (Person on Wizard 101, Thing 2 says it to make her laugh)
Favorite Thing about Daddy - "I like when he bakes cookies, he makes fun surprises, and I like snuggling with him."
Favorite Thing about Mommy - "You make fun surprises like this interview, you make homeschooling nice, and I like to talk about books with you."
Favorite Thing about Your Sibling - "He's funny. When I'm sad or mad, he can usually cheer me up. When something exciting happens, he calls out to me to tell me."
Favorite Thing about Scout - "She's sweet and snuggly. She's funny. And when she gets in trouble, she tries to look so innocent and it's hilarious."
Favorite Christmas Gift of year - My dolphin Webkinz and my tote bag filled with writing supplies
Favorite School Subject - Reading and Writing
Favorite Family Tradition - Our Christmas Traditions and Birthday Traditions
Favorite Homeschool Group Activity - Park Days
What do you want to be when you grow up? - A cook of my own restaurant and a writer
If you could change anything about the world . . . - "No more war and I'd find something better to use than money so there'd be less of a hassle."
If you could have any superpower . . . - "Flying."
Weirdest thing you can do - "I can turn one foot backward and one foot forward at the same time. I can look in two different directions at once. I can touch my head with my feet . . . backwards."
Best thing about you - (She felt a little uncomfortable with this question). "I'm good at making friends and making people feel welcome in our homeschool group."


Thing 2 - Age 7 (turns 8 tomorrow), 2nd Grade

Favorite Color - Silver
Favorite Food - Pizza
Favorite Drink - Birch Beer
Favorite Board or Card Game - Settlers of Catan (Seafarers)
Favorite Wii Game - Super Smash Brothers
Favorite Online Game - Wizard 101
Favorite DS game - Pokemon Heart Gold
Favorite Hobby - Playing Yu-Gi-Oh! (the card game)
Favorite non-electronic thing to do - Yu-Gi-Oh!
Favorite thing to do outside - Baseball
Favorite Book - Yu-Gi-Oh! R, Book 4, Return of the Dragon
Favorite Movie - Despicable Me
Favorite TV show or Cartoon - Yu-Gi-Oh! 5Ds
Favorite Restaurant - Infinito's (All-You-Can-Eat Pizza and Salad)
Favorite Outdoor Spot - Playground
Favorite Animal - Bald Eagle
Favorite Fruit - Bananas
Favorite Flower - Nightshade
Favorite Tree - Dead Tree
Favorite Vegetable - Celery
Favorite Snack - Little Tiny Pizzas
Favorite Stuffed Animal - Zip (stuffed eagle)
Favorite Sport - Hockey
Favorite Dessert - Oreos
Favorite Place to Vacation - Disney World
Favorite Houseguest - "I like when Vavo comes here. I also like when EJ visits and when Cathy and Kellie visit."
Favorite Ice Cream Flavor - Bubble Gum
Favorite Smell - Spearmint
Favorite Aisle in Department Store - Lego aisle
Favorite Song - "Hello There" by Cheap Trick
Favorite Group or Singer -Europe and Cheap Trick
Favorite Season - Fall
B.F.F. -Mark H.
Favorite Room of the House - Our room
Favorite Day of the Week - Saturday
Favorite Event of year - Going to the Beach
Favorite Errand to Run -Going to the Toy Store
Favorite Outfit - Yoga Clothes
Favorite Instrument to Play - Piano
Favorite Phrase - "Take 'em to the village!"
Favorite Thing about Daddy - "I like about Daddy that he's hard-working, he'll do almost anything, he's a super geek (and that's a good thing) -write that in parentheses, and I love him."
Favorite Thing about Mommy - "She'll cook, she washes the dishes, and I love her."
Favorite Thing about Your Sibling - "I love her, she's great, she's funny, she'll make me belly laugh, she'll play games with me. Sometimes. There's so many things, you're never going to be able to fit it all there."
Favorite Thing about Scout - "She's cute, she'll beg and that's cute, she doesn't really eat her kibble and that's cute, when you put a blanket on her, she's Underdoggie."
Favorite Christmas Gift of year - My Night Mare Webkinz
Favorite School Subject - Math
Favorite Family Tradition - Going to the pool in the summer
Favorite Homeschool Group Activity - YMCA Swim and Gym Time
What do you want to be when you grow up? - A restaurant owner
If you could change anything about the world . . . - "No Pollution."
If you could have any superpower . . . - "Let's see, I already have super speed, soooooooo . . . jumping high."
Weirdest thing you can do - "Let's see. I have 3 things. I can close my eye and open my eyelid so all you can see is white. I can look in two different directions at the same time. I like Twizzlers in salsa."
Best thing about you - "Best thing about me? I'm quick making friends."

Saturday, January 1, 2011

2011 Phrase to Live By

Well, this is year 3 of choosing a phrase to live by instead of making goals/resolutions. I love this new approach to new year beginnings and tweakings. I grew up making lots of goals and resolutions. That served me well for a while, but this new approach is serving me well now and suits where I am in life.

I like that it's more of a philosophical approach instead of a list of particulars. When I'd make a list of goals (stuff like "exercise daily" or "write more letters" or "stop cracking knuckles"), I'd start off well enough, but by February or March, things would have already waned, leaving me waiting ten more months to set more goals that would drop off within two months. Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

With a phrase of the year, I honestly think about it daily, weekly, monthly. Quite often, I'm thinking about the phrase and reevaluating how much my life is fitting with my intentions, thoughts, and feelings. That's one of the things I really like about the phrase -- it's not forgotten by February or June or November. It's something I think about A LOT.

The other thing I really like about the phrase of the year is that it's something I can continually adjust throughout the year since it is more of a principle than a hard and fast expectation.

So, in 2009, I chose the phrase "Live Authentically." And boy, did I. Big time. Lots of big life changes. Lots of decisions. Lots of listening to my heart. Lots of living true to my heart. That was a great year as far as that goes and I'd definitely label it a success in the phrase-of-the-year department.

For 2010, I chose "Live Intentionally" as my phrase. I'd say it went okay. It was such a great segue from living authentically that I thought it would springboard me into some serious accomplishments. And there were some. But not as many as I had envisioned. And that's okay.

I thought about the phrase a lot throughout the year and alternated between being pleased with how it was going and feeling that it wasn't going as well as I'd hoped. I would consider the phrase and tweak how things were going and think about how I'd approach 2011, even contemplating a repeat of the phrase so that I could work on it some more with perhaps better results.

But, I don't want to look at it as glass-half-empty (and I don't). I've grown in many ways in the "Live Intentionally" approach. Even as I sit here and write this post, I see that it actually went better than I give it credit. Anyway, like I was saying, I like the "Live Intentionally" approach. And I can take that forward into this new year.

In my post for this past year, I listed some things I wanted to actually DO and not just talk about doing or put on "to do" lists. There have been some success and there are some things still waiting for a little (or a lot) more attention.

I called that new friend. I called those old friends. I read those books. I saw those movies. I got together with old friends. I cut my hair short. We studied those subjects. I did NaNoWriMo again. We got to the beach. We went to that concert. We organized some stuff.

And I didn't call that new friend. And I didn't read some of those books. And I didn't watch some of those movies. And I didn't get together with old friends as much as we'd hoped. We didn't study some of those subjects. And there's plenty we didn't organize.

A mixed success. And that's okay. We came up with several new organizing systems (including the corkboard wall that I love). And there are yet more to do lists. And, again, that's okay.

So, in evaluating all of this, I decided I wanted a new phrase. Something similar, yes, but also something fresh and new. I decided to go for the same results I was seeking but with a different (and more self-affirming) approach. Rather than focusing on living intentionally per se (where I would just DO whatever thing I wanted to do instead of putting it on a list or waiting for everything to be just right in order to do it), I want to try to live more that way but not for the sake of accomplishment this time. I want to do it because I have that level of respect for myself.

So this year's phrase?

"Live Respectfully."

The more I think about it, the more I see this as a natural blend of living authentically and living intentionally, as well as a continuation of both.

I don't want to accomplish things for the sake of checking them off my list. I want to do them because I respect myself that much. I don't want to clean out closets just to have them better organized. I want to clean out those closets because it's important to me and to the feeling in our home.

I want to "carpe diem" more than I do, not just so I can say I did this or that, but because I respect myself enough to grab hold of life and LIVE IT.

I want to be okay with saying "no" or "not right now" more, so that I'm not run ragged in doing for others at my own expense (which truly does no favors to myself or others anyway).

I want to manage my time better -- whether I'm completing projects, working with clients, or taking time to meditate each day-- not so that I can be super turbo-organized woman (in fact, no thank you), but so that I can mindfully enjoy every moment of life and all that we do. So, that I can feed that self-respect with more self-respect.

I want to exercise more, not so that I can have more checkmarks on my Wii Fit calendar or meet some weekly goal, but because I like myself so much that I want to feel good both physically and emotionally for me and for my family.

I want to do things because I want to do them, because my heart tells me to, because I said I would. You know, if I promised someone else I'd do something for them, I most likely would do it. I want to live that same level of respect for myself.

I want to meditate more, organize more, exercise more, play more, read more, write more, learn more, do more (or less sometimes). But rather than make goals that involve specifics of doing those tasks, I want to live with such respect for myself, that doing those things is a natural extension. My approach will involve time for myself, meditation, affirmations, action, and intention.

So, this may seem like the same approach as 2010's, but it's not. I'm looking to live intentionally, yes, but not just to do it for the sake of the outcome this time, but because I respect myself, respect my body, respect my heart, respect my family, respect my mind, respect my friends, respect my health, respect my resolve, respect my soul.

Bring on 2011. I'm ready.

Friday, December 24, 2010

Christmas Eve at Our House

Tonight's SCRUMPTIOUS Menu

Special Drink

(non-alcoholic pomegranate-lemonade sparkling drink)
(and Root Beer in a bottle for Thing 2)

Main Course
"Surf & Turf"

Seared Tuna with Wasabi Butter and Cilantro Sauce
Grilled Sirloin Tips with Sauteéd Mushrooms

Side Dishes

Roasted Carrots with Rosemary
Green Beans with Caramelized Shallots and Red Peppers
Sweet Potato Casserole
Twice-Baked Potatoes

Dessert

Homemade Dark Chocolate Pudding Parfaits
with Chocolate Shavings

There was not a SINGLE thing on the table
that would've received less than 5 stars.
I kid you not.


It was AMAZING.
Thing 1 counted my exclamations
throughout the meal and there
were no less than 22.

It was SO delicious,
I could cry.

I love good food.
I love the holidays.
I love my family.

I love that we celebrate Christmas
on Christmas Eve.
We have SUCH a good time!

We've feasted.
Santa has come to fill our stockings.
We've opened our presents.

And now we're all playing, resting,
talking to relatives on the phone,
relaxing, reading, enjoying.

I love this time of year --
the week between Christmas and New Year's
is sooooooooo kick back.

Aaaaaaaaaaaah.

(I'm not uploading pictures tonight,
because I'm tired and not feeling great.
I've been sick for a week
and the excitement of the holiday
has officially run me down.
More to come later.)

Happy Holidays, all!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

A Digital Nativity

This is a super clever video that my MIL sent to me. It's very well done and deserves a post of its own -- so, here you go!

What
the original Christmas would look like if it were now...

WELL DONE!!!!








If you can't see the video, here is the link ............

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkHNNPM7pJA

Monday, December 20, 2010

14 Years Ago Today . . .


I married my best friend.

Definitely the best decision I've ever made in my life.

I could not be happier.

Happy Anniversary to us!

Saturday, December 11, 2010

2010 in 10 sentences (more or less)

I love choosing not to resist these.

1. 2010: How do you pronounce it?

Twenty-Ten. No, Two Thousand Ten. No, maybe I do say Twenty-Ten. Okay, I'm not even sure.

2. Make a facial expression that shows how you feel about the year.

(Picture me sticking my lips out deep in thought).

3. The best thing I bought was some new shirts for the summer.

4. For me, 2010 was
a total mix. [Answer with three words]

5. I totally cringed this year when my friend's son got diagnosed with leukemia .

6. The best thing on the Internet by far was NaNoWriMo.

7. I'm pretty sure I overshared on Facebook this year when I . . . nope, got off Facebook over a year ago and haven't missed it, so no oversharing on Facebook for me.

8. The best day of the year was witnessing Ellie's birth.

9. The best place I visited was Rehoboth Beach, DE. (The 2nd best "place" I visited was the Michael Bublé concert).

10. Next year, I'm planning to use the Internet less.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Ooh, Ooh. Yes, please.

I love that Emily answered the Harry Potter questions in the previous post. I would LOVE to hear more people's answers, too. Please feel free to play along in the comments of the "Harry Potter Interviews" post below! Thanks! :)

Monday, December 6, 2010

Harry Potter Interviews


Yesterday, sometime after 11pm, Thing 2 finished the entire Harry Potter series! With both kids, we've read/listened to the audio version (FABULOUS, by the way) during their first time through the series. Both kids have read the whole series around the same age (ages 6-7ish).

I think Harry Potter is PURE MAGIC. Well, duh, right? No, seriously. I think JK Rowling is a genius, her series nothing short of an inspiration. I'm amazed every time I read the books. She leaves nothing out. She has no unimportant details. Everything checks out. She's a genius. Genius! And I really love, love, love the whole series. Love them!

And I *love* reading them with my kids. That's probably why they've both read the series so young -- I'm impatient to share Harry Potter with the kids!!

We've dressed up, eaten Bertie Bott's Every Flavor Bean, made three kinds of Butterbeer, read the series a bazillion times, listened to the audio, played Harry Potter Uno and Harry Potter Clue, made pumpkin pasties, had adventures all over the house, turned our house into Hogwarts, hosted Harry Potter birthday parties, attended midnight release parties for books, attended midnight premieres of movies, played Harry Potter video games, played Harry Potter trivia, written Harry Potter fan fiction, put up Harry Potter posters. It borders on obsession.

I love Harry Potter! I also cry like crazy every time I read the books, too.

I told the kids I was thinking of doing Harry Potter interviews with them and they thought that sounded fun, so here goes (and after doing it with the kids, I wanted to do it, too):

*****WARNING -- THIS MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS!!*****

1. What is your favorite Harry Potter book?

Thing 1: The 7th one -- Deathly Hallows
Thing 2: The 5th one -- Order of the Phoenix
Stacy: Some order of 7, 4, and 6 (It's hard to choose favorites sometimes!)
Mark: The 6th one -- Half-Blood Prince

2. Who is your favorite major character (of the 3)?

Thing 1: Hermione
Thing 2: Ron
Stacy: Ron
Mark: Ron

3. Who is your favorite minor character?

Thing 1: Dobby and Dumbledore
Thing 2: Cho (and Luna and Fred and George)
Stacy: Neville and Luna (I also like Kreacher)
Mark: Neville and Fred and George

4. Do you have a favorite scene? If so, what is it?

Thing 1: The big showdown at the end and The Epilogue
Thing 2: When they're going after the prophecy in the ministry
Stacy: When Fred and George leave Hogwarts
Mark: My favorite chapter is when he reads Snape's memory.

5. Do you have a favorite line? If so, what is it?

Thing 1: "Why are you worried about you-know-who? You should be worried about you-no-poo!" And the line in number 6 when Dumbledore tells Harry, "I'm not worried, Harry. I'm with you."
Thing 2: ""I...must...not...look...like...a...baboon's...backside."
Stacy: "NOT MY DAUGHTER, YOU B----!" :)
Mark: "NOT MY DAUGHTER, YOU B----!" :)

6. If you were a student at Hogwarts, in which house do you think the Sorting Hat would place you?

Thing 1: Ravenclaw
Thing 2: Ravenclaw
Stacy: Ravenclaw
Mark: Gryffindor

7. Would you want to play Quidditch? Which position?

Thing 1: Yes, Chaser.
Thing 2: Maybe. Seeker, because Seeker you can hardly get hurt.
Stacy: Nope.
Mark: Yes, Chaser.

8. Who is your favorite teacher or staff member at Hogwarts?

Thing 1: I have 3 -- Dumbledore, Hagrid, and McGonagall
Thing 2: Probably Lockheart, because he's funny. But my favorite is Dumbledore.
Stacy: Dumbledore and McGonagall
Mark: Dumbledore

9. Which is your favorite magical creature/animal in the book?

Thing 1: I have 3 -- I like the unicorns, Buckbeak, and Hedwig.
Thing 2: Hedwig and Fang and Pigwidgeon
Stacy: Dobby and Kreacher
Mark: Dobby and Kreacher

10. Who is your least favorite bad guy? Who can you really not stand (besides Voldemort)?

Thing 1: Bellatrix.
Thing 2: Oh, Bellatrix. I'm glad she died. She drives me crazy.
Stacy: Bellatrix and Umbridge
Mark: Bellatrix

11. What magical power from the books would you like to possess?

Thing 1: I'd love to have a Room of Requirement. That would be awesome!
Thing 2: I'd like to be able to do spells like Stupefy! Reducto! Impedimenta! and Petrificus Totalus!
Stacy: I would love to have food magically appear every night for dinner.
Mark: I just want a magic wand.

12. How did you feel the first time you finished the series?

Thing 1: Sad. Shocked. Happy.
Thing 2: Awesome. I felt like I could do anything!
Stacy: I was glad to have finished it, but sad to be done.
Mark: It was really good, but I didn't want it to end.